Okay, I'm going to clear a few things up before everybody assumes I'm a paranoid jerk that likes to cause trouble.
A number of years ago I was going out with this woman and for 2 years it all looked great. She was a devout christian, I wasn't, but I went to church with her anyway. She was my girl, and I did what I was supposed to do: Support her.
We moved in together, and we did have a couple of minor arguments, but nothing serious. Mostly about what bill to pay first, where we were going to thanksgiving dinner, etc. Minor stuff. 99% of the time it was pretty much fun times and laughter. I even picked out a ring and I had it 1/2 paid off (nice one too!)
Then one day, right out of the blue, I came home from work, and there she was, sitting on the couch. Her luggage was at her feet. I asked her what the heck was going on. She said that "She was having trouble figuring out who she loved more: God or me". She said that she was going to move back to her parents place for a short time to figure things out.
Well, this hurt, but I loved her. I wanted to be the supportive boyfriend, so I said "Well, okay. I don't like this, but if you feel that this is what you have to do, then okay. Just keep in touch every couple of days, just so I know that you are alright. Fair enough?"
"Fair enough." Taxi came by, she got in, and she was gone.
Fast forward a week. No word. I left a message on her phone and on her parents phone, just for her to give me a shout.
Nothing. Not a word.
I did this about twice a week for about a month. Then one day I was having a coffee/dinner gathering with a few of my friends and guess who walked in?
My Girlfriend. With another guy. I guy I met and knew a bit when I first met her.
They saw me, turned around and left. Never heard or seen them again. I even left a message to her parents requesting that they pick up her stuff. Nothing.
I ended up packing her stuff up and leaving it all outside her parent's door.
So, I guess my posts to Doug were a bit cynical. I admit it, and you all are probably right that I shouldn't have posted them.
BUT, I didn't post them to hurt Doug. Nor was I posting them to generate mistrust to his lady (or at least with that intention).
I was offering support, but a warning to not sit down and wait like I did. Waiting on this kind of thing is far more painful than seeking your own answers out and finding out on your own what the truth is.
I really hope that this girl is just figuring things out. I really do. I hope that she is being straight-up and honest about all this.
But my girl took advantage of my feelings, my heart, and she threw 2 years away like trash, all in the name of GOD. She used GOD as a convenient excuse. She used GOD to justify what she was doing because she was a coward and didn't have the guts to tell me straight out that she wasn't happy and she didn't have the guts to fix things.
I don't want Doug going thru this.
Anyways, that's my soapbox story, and I'm off.
Ps. I've been married to a wonderful woman for the last 10 years, and have 3 beautiful daughters. It's not perfect, and she does go to church, but she's a straight-shooter and tells me right off if she isn't happy about something. We work together to solve problems. That's what I would have wanted with the other girl.