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n3tjm

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I knew something was up. Something was bothering her. Something serious. So she and I plan a time where we can talk in private about it. Before that time came, Rissa was normal. She said she loved me. She called me Sweet-D when I called or she called. So I figured what she wanted to talk about was serious, but not to serious. Well the time came, and she and I went on a late night walk. She started off saying how much she loved me. Then she told me what was bothering her. Then she told me our relationship is over..
 
Dont change for any woman. There are plenty more out there. Sorry to hear about your troubles brother.
 
What was the reason?
I smell a cheater.
 
n3tjm said:
She started off saying how much she loved me. Then she told me what was bothering her. Then she told me our relationship is over..
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Maybe whatever she told you that is bothering her is something you can address? Perhaps she is leaving the door open for you?
 
Sorry to hear it man. Now call your best bud and go cry in your beer. Airing this out on the Internet ? Maybe not so good.
 
I'm really sorry to hear this Doug.:(

I've been there, done that. I once dated a girl for almost 2 years when she suddenly called our relationship quits. Man, was that tough. It was basically a very emotional punch in the face I never saw coming until it hit me.

Hang in there buddy.
 
Wow that stinks.

Just remember that there are still 3,544,120,614 other women out there.
 
Take a deep breath, my friend. This is a learning time and you are not the only one to ever go thru this. There IS someone out there for you and sometimes you have to go thru trials to get to them. Keep the faith, and be gentle to yourself. Do not let yourself be talked into anything less than you really are-a kind, loving human being capable of warmth, love and laughter without suspicion and guilt. Let this person go to find their own path and if it leads back to you, fate has been kind. In a world of infinite possibilities, you are someone else's ideal. Smile thru this and go find your future. Keep your eyes on the horizon brother, another port will come into view. Peace.
 
Doug? Also a big hug from me too. :)......In a platonic kind of way!;)

Can we talk here? This is coming from a 45yr. old bachelor who has never been married or has any children.....:rolleyes:None that i know of!:rolleyes:

What i have i learned about women and, love in my short time here?

1. Women are beautiful.....They look good, smell good....talk sexy.....:D
2. Never.....ever.....try to get into the mind of a woman....they are on a different wavelength than you and, i.....Never get into their minds.:eek:
3. IF it wasn't meant too be.....it just wasn't meant too be.....period.:D
4. The right one is out there....that's why she's the "Special One".......Never give up looking for her.:D
5. I would rather have loved and, lost a few....( a boatload:rolleyes: ) times in my life than to have accepted the ( sometimes ) norm and, failed in an unhappy relationship/marriage...possibly affecting the lives of a precious child/children....than too have continued on.
6. If one gets himself involved in a living hell.....he has the ability to make a change. Whether is was caused by social, mental, physical, money or whatever situation that didn't seem too arise in the beginning.:eek:
7. Life is short......I have the rest of eternity too laugh with the sinners....than cry with the saints....BUT, i'm NOT going too do it while here on earth. (The crying thing.....):D
8. See #4 again......Keep trying, looking and, never lose hope.:D

From the guy who's been told by MANY Red Headed Women to *Kiss my A$$!*:no:

Find your solace in your hobbies, work and, TRUE friends.......The pain will subside.....

Trust me.;)
 
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Jumping in on the group hug. Sorry to hear this news, Dough. Heartaches are really big hurts.
 
Ever hear about "Lilith"? Do a little research and you will understand. All women have "Lilith" in them. Some more than others.
 
Most of us here are unfortunate enough, to have to say, been there done that. Years of experience teach that the first ones the worst, realistically running on average 6 months of misery and escaping to whatever to get over it.


BUT the good news is; After those same many years of experience, a short cut has come to light that magically makes it all go away.......that is:

To get over a woman.............. get under a another one! :wink:
 
Sorry to hear about this.

One thing that I see as at least partly positive is that she told you what was bothering her, and it sounds like she still cares about you. Is the thing that was bothering her a reasonable issue, and is it something you could change and would be willing to change? Would she have you back if you did? If not, then chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. If yes, then decide what you are willing to do for the relationship.
 
As a friend once said to me, "Women are like buses,(trains, planes, ect...) wait a few minutes and another one will come along."
 
dlazarus6660 said:
As a friend once said to me, "Women are like buses,(trains, planes, ect...) wait a few minutes and another one will come along."
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But also, like buses, some of them are not headed where you want to go, and some have been left a mess by previous riders. Sometimes it takes a while to get the right one.
 
n3tjm said:
I knew something was up. Something was bothering her. Something serious. So she and I plan a time where we can talk in private about it. Before that time came, Rissa was normal. She said she loved me. She called me Sweet-D when I called or she called. So I figured what she wanted to talk about was serious, but not to serious. Well the time came, and she and I went on a late night walk. She started off saying how much she loved me. Then she told me what was bothering her. Then she told me our relationship is over..
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Take a few days to clear your head, watch a couple of really stupid comedy movies, then move on.

If she told you what was bothering her, think about it. Whether she's right or she's wrong or whose fault it is doesn't really matter all that much.

If it's something you can fix, fix it. If it isn't, start looking for somebody else who won't have the same problem. As others have said, keep in mind that people fundamentally don't change very much -- if her problem is with who and what you really are, it's not likely either you or she will ever really be able to adjust. One of you will try, probably not succeed, then both of you will be even more frustrated. Better to find somebody else more compatible.

But first be sure to watch those goofy movies. Don't sit around and mope. Go out and launch some rockets if you can. :wink:
 
fyrwrxz said:
Take a deep breath, my friend. This is a learning time and you are not the only one to ever go thru this. There IS someone out there for you and sometimes you have to go thru trials to get to them. Keep the faith, and be gentle to yourself. Do not let yourself be talked into anything less than you really are-a kind, loving human being capable of warmth, love and laughter without suspicion and guilt. Let this person go to find their own path and if it leads back to you, fate has been kind. In a world of infinite possibilities, you are someone else's ideal. Smile thru this and go find your future. Keep your eyes on the horizon brother, another port will come into view. Peace.
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Wow...........

+1

I promise,,,,,,,,,
Time will pass,,,,,,,,,,,,
You won't feel this way forever..........

Teddy
 

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