Alzheimer’s sucks

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    WILDMANRS

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    This has got to be one of the worst ways to to go ,not only for the parent but also all of the loved ones around them.
    My father is in what I would guess stage 5 of the disease.
    We tried to take care of him here at my home but that only lasted a week and we realized he needed more help than we could provide.
    We placed him in a nursing home with a memory care unit.
    It’s still not anywhere near over for dad ,or my 2 brothers, Jackie and myself.
    I have always been close to my father , seeing him like this is just heartbreaking.
    The past month has been a rough one for Jackie and myself.
    I apologize for any lapse in service over the past 30 or so days .
    If you have gone through this you understand ,if you haven’t pray you never have to .
     
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    My mother just passed away from this hideous disease. I feel somewhat guilty to my kids and to my mother when she was alive, that I was a late bloomer in having kids. My kids were just over 8 when she died but they never knew her warmth, sense of humour and elegance. Their memory is of this cold indifferent and somewhat wretched old lady. This disease not only robs you of your memories but your dignity as well.

    I feel for you having to deal with this Tim.
     
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    SUCKS, isn't strong enough of a word brother!!!
    My heart and prayers to you and family.
    When they lose concept of day and night it gets worse. Call the cops cause can't find their car,, thought they haven't driven in 20 years. or leave out the front door at 3am to go to work. (Retired 25 -30 years ago)Times when you're absolutely a stranger to them.
    Its the worst thing anyone can go through, on both sides of the fence.
     
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    My granny went that route. God it was hard to watch. It ANNOYED her. She remembered to know she had a time when she could function and my god it was horrid to watch her fail to use a TV remote. We had to step by step tell her in word instructions how to do everything. She could do step by step. But man it was tragic for us all.
     
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    Tim, Jackie, and family,

    So sorry to hear this. Susan and I wish you strength and comfort through this dark chapter. You are in our thoughts.
     
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    It’s heart wrenching, it’s so sad to see the mind go when the body still has will. I feel for your situation whole heartedly, my kids have had to witness this there entire life. Sad situation all around. Prayers...
     
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    Dementia is a terrible way to go. I saw mom go with brain mets which is very similar. My hats off to you Tim.
     
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    My 96 year old grandma just passed away last year. She was starting to get Alzheimer's and nobody could leave her sight without her screaming for help. At that age you get scared to be alone.
    Sorry to hear this sad news about your father.
     
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    Tim, I feel your pain. Lost my father last year to this and heart failure. Do your best to remember the time before. Our thoughts will be with you and the family.
     
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    Sorry to hear. Really rough for everyone concerned.
     
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    Our hearts are with you guys.
     
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    It's my specialty. It truly stinks because it's a marathon where every time you look, something's changed, and not for the better.
    Unfortunately we're no closer to a "cure" and sell products like they are.
     
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    My sympathies to you and your family Tim. My mother in law just passed two weeks ago from it. It's such a mysterious disease.
     
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    Tim & Jackie. Very sorry to hear about Tim's Dad. End of life issues are always hard on the family members. Cancer is just about as bad. Hang in there. Do what you can for him and for family. May God support you in this time of need. Greg, Jill & Kristin Olson
     
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    Tim, Jackie,

    My wife & I, wish you all of Gods comfort and healing hands for you and your father !

    Our hearts go out to you . God Bless
     
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    Tim, I'm so sorry..
    I know just putting him in the home was super difficult..
    Try to remember the good times, when you both were younger..
    My heart goes out to you and Jackie..
    Prayers for you all..

    Teddy
     
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    My sympathies to you and Jackie. My father was once a brilliant chemist (who helped develop the rocket propellant used in the Minuteman first stage). It was difficult to watch him lose his memory. We were fortunate that his passing was quick and rather pain free. I still miss him years later. It’s too bad I took so long to find high power rockets. He would have been a nice resource for mixing propellant. My mother went through the same thing with both her parents. It’s a good reminder to make the best of now. What you’re doing for your father is remarkable.
     
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    My mother also had Alzheimers and passed last summer. It is truly a horrific disease. Oftentimes personality is also affected along with memory. My mom went through several changes, mostly for the worse, before her original gentle nature returned. It was really hard on those who bore the brunt of her disease induced accusations. I've had other friends whose loved one turned into an entirely different person, often violent, because of the disease, never to regain their original personality.

    We were all spared the worst of the end when she had a stroke and died several days later. It gave us a chance to say goodbye and it was a much more peaceful passing than what could have been. Terrible that a stroke was considered a blessing.

    I keep reading about all the advancements they are making on mouse models of the disease. I know that we all hope that they reach fruition in human trials and we can make the horror of Alzheimers a thing of the past.


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    Terrible news, hate that you and your family are going through hard times. Alzheimer's is such a cruel disease, especially to those closest. Hats off to you for trying to do it at home, but I know personally how difficult it is to care for someone in the later stages of this disease. Best of luck on your journey- praying for yall.
     
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    Lost my maternal grandfather from alzheimer's and cancer. It was really hard to watch a man who was so strong that even a subdural hematoma couldn't do in, only to succumb to a total loss of his mind before passing.

    Praying for you, your dad, and family, and all those that have to go through this.

    God Bless
     
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    Very sorry for you and yours, Tim.
     
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    Sorry to hear that.

    My mother turned 98 last month, in a dementia memory care facility. Going on sixth year now.
    I visited her to wish her a Happy Birthday, but at this point, my visits seem to be more for my peace of mind than hers.
     
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    Tim, very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you, Jackie and your family.
     
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    Tim, Our hearts are with you. Knowing that so many keep you, Jackie and your family in their thoughts and prayers should help you find strength to get through these hard times.

    Mike & Patty
     
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    Tim and Jackie,
    I’m sorry. That cannot be easy.
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    Tim & Jackie - I am so sorry to hear this; I know it is not easy for you. Prayers for strength through this trying time.
     

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