EXACTLY!!! Sums up exactly how I feel...
Fellow at church a couple years or so back lost his job... his wife was epileptic and really wasn't supposed to drive, and they had adopted a little girl a little older than ours at the time, and they were friends... he lost his home and had to move across the state to get a new job, in the oilfield as it turned out. I went over and helped them load everything out, we went over to the rental truck place, and he didn't have the money on him to pay the deposit, and didn't have a credit card, so I put it on mine so he didn't have to waste half a tank of gas and a couple hours running back to our town to the bank and back again to the rental truck place... I helped him get everything loaded into the truck while his wife cleaned... when my wife got off work, she came over and helped as well.
What was REALLY disappointing is that this fellow had been the "youth activities deacon" for many years... the high school age church kids pretty much all showed up at his house on Friday evenings after school, watched TV and played video games and ate and horsed around until the wee hours, crashed on the floor and sofas at his place, spent most of Saturday doing much the same thing, then went home Saturday night late for church the next morning... sometimes to return to his house Sunday afternoon til early evening before going home to get ready for school the next day...
After doing all this stuff for the kids for all these years, NOT A SINGLE DARN ONE OF THEM showed up to lend a hand to this guy... nobody else from church did either, except for one elder and one deacon and the preacher, and they showed up for about an hour or so and then split hastily... I spent the WHOLE DAY over there, and well into the night... we ended up leaving same time as they hit the road for West Texas, about 8:30 or 9pm... so they could be there to move into their new apt. around 8am the next day when the office opened... thankfully he said he already had some help to get them moved into their new place, at the church he'd visited out there when he was interviewing for the job and getting started...
I'm not a completely cold-hearted SOB, but I AM a pragmatist...
Later! OL JR