My son-in-law owns a fairly successful fencing company. He's very meticulous so businesses and high fence ranchers keep him in business. He's meticulous enough that he's about the only contractor I'd let work on my place (and I don't ask for a discount). That said, he was struggling a little with some of his hands. Not the hands that his fingers are connected to, the kind that work for him. So... I gave him a little advice. I'm 63 years into this journey and hopefully I'm capable of some measure of good advice...
(1) If you have expectations for someone to do something like you want it done you should tell them, maybe even write down exactly how you want it done.
(2) When you've done 1, understand that it still may not go exactly like you wanted it to go. Perfection is an illusion.
(3) Some people will follow you to hell and back. If you take too many trips to hell, they'll stop following and you will miss them.
(4) There's more than one way to do some things. In your business that's not really relevant because your customer drives that for you and you hold the primary responsibility for making them happy. In most other things it's true. You'll find that to be really valuable as your boys get older. I would have.
(5) In regards to #4, I won't let sloppy workmanship slide. Not mine, not anyone elses. However, I also don't slap down alternative ideas (anymore). Sometimes people will learn from their mistake and sometimes you'll learn from their success. Vegas odds.
(5a) A long time ago we were putting in a garden. My mom was up visiting and she was "supervising". I was letting the kids put in some onions (might've been potatoes) and they got them about 3/8" out of line. I started griping at them and my mom intervened Sometimes when something "isn't right", I say to myself - "It's just a fking onion".
(6) Don't take your work home (really hard to learn that one). Your family isn't your employee. They are your support. They are your relief from work. An oasis. Be happy that it's there.
(7) You are what you think about. Your thoughts create your experiences and reality. If you think you're having a **** day, it'll be a **** day. You're the only person that can turn that around. A lot of self help books are based around that one sentence.
(8) Words cut like a knife and leave a scar if used incorrectly or too loudly. Be careful with what you say (lord knows I'd take a few things back if I could).
(9) Good intentions will never beat good actions.
(1) If you have expectations for someone to do something like you want it done you should tell them, maybe even write down exactly how you want it done.
(2) When you've done 1, understand that it still may not go exactly like you wanted it to go. Perfection is an illusion.
(3) Some people will follow you to hell and back. If you take too many trips to hell, they'll stop following and you will miss them.
(4) There's more than one way to do some things. In your business that's not really relevant because your customer drives that for you and you hold the primary responsibility for making them happy. In most other things it's true. You'll find that to be really valuable as your boys get older. I would have.
(5) In regards to #4, I won't let sloppy workmanship slide. Not mine, not anyone elses. However, I also don't slap down alternative ideas (anymore). Sometimes people will learn from their mistake and sometimes you'll learn from their success. Vegas odds.
(5a) A long time ago we were putting in a garden. My mom was up visiting and she was "supervising". I was letting the kids put in some onions (might've been potatoes) and they got them about 3/8" out of line. I started griping at them and my mom intervened Sometimes when something "isn't right", I say to myself - "It's just a fking onion".
(6) Don't take your work home (really hard to learn that one). Your family isn't your employee. They are your support. They are your relief from work. An oasis. Be happy that it's there.
(7) You are what you think about. Your thoughts create your experiences and reality. If you think you're having a **** day, it'll be a **** day. You're the only person that can turn that around. A lot of self help books are based around that one sentence.
(8) Words cut like a knife and leave a scar if used incorrectly or too loudly. Be careful with what you say (lord knows I'd take a few things back if I could).
(9) Good intentions will never beat good actions.
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