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switch the scenario. this is your wife talking:
Hi all- I'm on a fence, and need some advice. Many of you seem to either be blessed with or are yourselves a knitting loving husband...my husband is terrific in so many ways, but has an "active disinterest" in knitting. he doesn't begrudge me of it, which I love him for endlessly, but he also doesn't have many hobbies of his own. he's been to a few club knitting sessions, and was a great cheerleader for my contests, but mostly he just sees it as "sillygirl stuff", something I do to get some alone time in the knitting room. I'm toying with the idea of getting him a knitting kit- nothing fancy, something that has a single point needle pair, a knit tally, cable stitch needles, stitch holders, tapestry yarn needles, cabone rings, point protectors and a knitting gauge . My idea is that I would be happy to help coach him on how to build it, but I will not do it for him, no way no how. It's then up to him to either start it, or leave it in the closet.
Obviously you don't know my husband, but surely someone here has tried something similar, and either it worked, and it becomes a team hobby, or it doesn't, and things go back to normal. I suppose if the situation were completely wrong, it could backfire, but I am not quite sure I can see that happening here (worst case is he says, "Oh great, you bought me something for you...", but I explain that away by saying it doesn't matter to me if he leaves it in the bag for ever).
Stupid idea?
do you truly honestly want to show her how much you love her and appreciate her? do you truly want to do something for her? theres 2 choices:
1) ask HER what she would like. not straight out ask, but do it in a covert way.
or
2) this is what lowpuller said and,imo, this man knows how to show his unconditional love:
I like rockets, a lot, but I love my wife.
Let her know she is loved, focus completely on her when picking the gift, and from what you have said, it won't be rocket related.
In fact, here is a suggestion......................
Take her away for a weekend getaway, to the special little spot she has always talked about. Splurge and buy her several things she shows interest in from the local gift shops.
Here is the hard part, buy nothing for yourself, and don't even talk about rockets!, no TRF, nothing for the whole weekend.
Focus on her, and remember why you married her..........................I don't know you, I don't know her, but I promise this will work.
It will be the best gift she ever got, and will pay dividends to you rocket related, big time in the future...
im single. have been for many years. I had a love of my life at one time.
you know what made me happy?
seeing her happy with a gift I gave her that she truly wanted. she was an amazing woman and very simple- simple things made her happy. but I listened. she love sunsets, the beach,bonfires, and reading. a little observing and I saw the author she liked.
so I got her some books by that author and scheduled a weeklong vacation in traverse city in a beach cottage.
seeing her enjoying reading her books until the sunset, then sitting by the bonfire reading........ priceless
Hi all- I'm on a fence, and need some advice. Many of you seem to either be blessed with or are yourselves a knitting loving husband...my husband is terrific in so many ways, but has an "active disinterest" in knitting. he doesn't begrudge me of it, which I love him for endlessly, but he also doesn't have many hobbies of his own. he's been to a few club knitting sessions, and was a great cheerleader for my contests, but mostly he just sees it as "sillygirl stuff", something I do to get some alone time in the knitting room. I'm toying with the idea of getting him a knitting kit- nothing fancy, something that has a single point needle pair, a knit tally, cable stitch needles, stitch holders, tapestry yarn needles, cabone rings, point protectors and a knitting gauge . My idea is that I would be happy to help coach him on how to build it, but I will not do it for him, no way no how. It's then up to him to either start it, or leave it in the closet.
Obviously you don't know my husband, but surely someone here has tried something similar, and either it worked, and it becomes a team hobby, or it doesn't, and things go back to normal. I suppose if the situation were completely wrong, it could backfire, but I am not quite sure I can see that happening here (worst case is he says, "Oh great, you bought me something for you...", but I explain that away by saying it doesn't matter to me if he leaves it in the bag for ever).
Stupid idea?
do you truly honestly want to show her how much you love her and appreciate her? do you truly want to do something for her? theres 2 choices:
1) ask HER what she would like. not straight out ask, but do it in a covert way.
or
2) this is what lowpuller said and,imo, this man knows how to show his unconditional love:
I like rockets, a lot, but I love my wife.
Let her know she is loved, focus completely on her when picking the gift, and from what you have said, it won't be rocket related.
In fact, here is a suggestion......................
Take her away for a weekend getaway, to the special little spot she has always talked about. Splurge and buy her several things she shows interest in from the local gift shops.
Here is the hard part, buy nothing for yourself, and don't even talk about rockets!, no TRF, nothing for the whole weekend.
Focus on her, and remember why you married her..........................I don't know you, I don't know her, but I promise this will work.
It will be the best gift she ever got, and will pay dividends to you rocket related, big time in the future...
im single. have been for many years. I had a love of my life at one time.
you know what made me happy?
seeing her happy with a gift I gave her that she truly wanted. she was an amazing woman and very simple- simple things made her happy. but I listened. she love sunsets, the beach,bonfires, and reading. a little observing and I saw the author she liked.
so I got her some books by that author and scheduled a weeklong vacation in traverse city in a beach cottage.
seeing her enjoying reading her books until the sunset, then sitting by the bonfire reading........ priceless