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Monday is Valentine’s Day. Don’t screw it up.
Monday is Valentine’s Day. Don’t screw it up.
You’re too fast, I was fixing it right after I posted it.Last I checked it was Sunday
You found a keeper!!We celebrate on the 15th or 16th. All the chocolates are then 1/2 price! (And she's cool with that!!)
Just keeping you out of troubleYou’re too fast, I was fixing it right after I posted it.
Mrs demands that I NOT buy her flowers, cards as well, a box of good chocolates is OK, where she will sample a bite from each piece.
My worries come from next week. 15 year anniversary. I am clueless what to do for her.
It really was kind of funny, right after I wrote don’t screw it up, I discovered I HAD screwed it up!Just keeping you out of trouble
I asked my wife what I should get for her and she said, "I already ordered something from Land's End. So, you're good."We celebrate on the 15th or 16th. All the chocolates are then 1/2 price! (And she's cool with that!!)
My wife will come home with something that she wanted, and tell me, "I said to myself, Tom would be really disappointed if I didn't get this for myself..." Thing is, she's usually right! She's very careful, almost too careful, with the money - I have to tell her, "You know , it's been a long, hard struggle, and you've been really good with the money, but we actually can enjoy a few things now. Not go crazy - just relax a little, enjoy yourself and be a blessing to others..."I asked my wife what I should get for her and she said, "I already ordered something from Land's End. So, you're good."
You are a great example to the rest of us (although my snarkier self keeps saying you make some of us look bad!)Every day is Valentine's Day with my young bride for 23 years...
My Dad had a similar situation with my Mom, although she was mentally with it, she was bed bound. He had to put her on a bedpan every 4 hours around the clock. He did this for five years and never told anyone about it, he and Mom lived far away and I was unable to visit often and wasn’t aware, but I should have been.I will ask for your forgiveness ahead of time, this is my tear jerker. If you are emotional don't read it. My current bride and friend for life I met in 1973 in Germany, we married in 1976. She was one of the first 13 WACs on Baumholder in Germany, a post with about 20,000 troops. I have no idea why, out of 20,000 guys, she chose me. She was my Amazon, 6 ft 2 in and about 170. We have lived an interesting, fullfilling life, she's the love of my life (obviously). Over the last 6 years I've become her caretaker. She is in decline physically and mentally and right now is in the hospital in Lubbock, Tx. We were traveling, heading to Az when she developed an infection. We are headed to a birthday celebration with her brother, they were both born in Feb. Hopefully, we will be able to continue after a few days. I weep when I write things like this, but I am hoping it will help me cope with the issues that are to come. I am just about to the point where she will need to be in a dementia facility, I really can't manage her physically anymore, that's my fault, I thought I could manage this to the end but was wrong. BTW I'm pushing 70 so please take that into account. Sorry to load this on you guys, but with Valentines this weekend it makes me emotional. Again, my apologies, but I really don't have many folks to unload on that aren't involved in one manner or another. Appreciate you guys.
Edit: Really shouldn't have posted this, sorry.
I will ask for your forgiveness ahead of time,.
No apologies needed, you can gain strength from the community knowing that you are not alone, and contrary to what most would believe, there are folks in this world that care.I will ask for your forgiveness ahead of time,
Buy her a rocket and name it " Crystal ".the 15 year anniversary item / theme is crystal.
But I wouldn't bring her [Crystal] home, if you want another 15 years!!
https://www.myweddinganniversary.com/anniversaries/15th-year-anniversary/
No need to apologize for asking for help, even if that "help" is just a listening ear. It often takes everything that we have just to do the things that we have to do every day. There's an old story that says... If everyone could sit in a circle and lay all of their burdens in the center for everyone to see, most everyone would pick up what they had brought with them and feel better that everyone else's are worse. We all have our burdens. No question that yours are big ones that most of us wouldn't want but we never know what life has in store for us. My Mom took care of Dad for a couple of years as he declined but, sort of like your situation, Dad was a LOT bigger than Mom. He was easily twice her size. More than once he fell on her. We could not convince her to get help until the very end and, I am convinced, she spent much of her health caring for him and declined more quickly than she otherwise might have. I know that you want to do everything you can for your wife, but please don't be afraid to ask for help. Your health is worth something and I'm certain that the woman you married wouldn't want you to destroy yourself caring for her. Do the best you can, but don't apologize, or be afraid to ask for help when you need it.I will ask for your forgiveness ahead of time, this is my tear jerker. If you are emotional don't read it. My current bride and friend for life I met in 1973 in Germany, we married in 1976. She was one of the first 13 WACs on Baumholder in Germany, a post with about 20,000 troops. I have no idea why, out of 20,000 guys, she chose me. She was my Amazon, 6 ft 2 in and about 170. We have lived an interesting, fullfilling life, she's the love of my life (obviously). Over the last 6 years I've become her caretaker. She is in decline physically and mentally and right now is in the hospital in Lubbock, Tx. We were traveling, heading to Az when she developed an infection. We are headed to a birthday celebration with her brother, they were both born in Feb. Hopefully, we will be able to continue after a few days. I weep when I write things like this, but I am hoping it will help me cope with the issues that are to come. I am just about to the point where she will need to be in a dementia facility, I really can't manage her physically anymore, that's my fault, I thought I could manage this to the end but was wrong. BTW I'm pushing 70 so please take that into account. Sorry to load this on you guys, but with Valentines this weekend it makes me emotional. Again, my apologies, but I really don't have many folks to unload on that aren't involved in one manner or another. Appreciate you guys.
Edit: Really shouldn't have posted this, sorry.
There were a couple of ripper crashes there this year. It made the news down here.Sunday can't be Valentine's Day, it's Daytona 500 Sunday! My wife doesn't think that's romantic at all...
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