I have almost the same configuration as you for my L3 project so I have done the math.
For a 4ft rocketman I get a decent rate of 21m/s (69 feet/s) for a 22kg (48lbs) rocket, that correlates very well with the rocketman drouge decent chart.
For the decent velocity you get (following Knacke)
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With
c_w the drag coefficient,
A the parachute surface,
ρ the air density at deployment altitude,
M the rocket mass and
g the acceleration of gravity g= 9.81m/s^2.
You should also calculate the opening shock both for your drouge chute and the main chute.
In the infinte mass model this gives:
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c_x is the opening shock coefficent, its about 1.1 for the rocketman chute.
For the main the infinite mass model highly overestimates the force.
For deployment speeds of 200km/h (180 feet/s) you get something like 1600 N and for 300 km/h (270 feet/s) 3700N for a 4ft rocketman and a 48 lbs rocket.
The shock of the main under drouge is around 6000 N but this is in a region where the infinite mass model is wrong, so in reality it will be much lower up to a factor of 10. That is all for controlled deployment.
You can find almost anything on this in the Parachute Recovery Design Manual by Knacke:
https://oai.dtic.mil/oai/oai?verb=getRecord&metadataPrefix=html&identifier=ADA247666
With the freebag method and serial deployment you will highly reduce the change of entanglement.
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The drouge should reduce the speed enough to restrict the main shock to a value your recovery gear can handle.
There is also a nice article by Jürg Thüring but it is in German:
https://www.argoshpr.ch/j3/index.php/knowhow/recovery/123-richtiges-design-von-bergungssystemen