That is the point where engineering comes in. As I understand it, the forces placed upon rocket components are shear, compression, tension, and perhaps (once in a while) torsion. Those loads are determined by the impulse of the motor, the aerodynamic loads, and whatever shock is placed upon the recovery system when it is deployed. Perhaps an engineer can give a more complete answer, and break it down in layman's terms. You can look at a rocket as a bunch of parts, but it always flies (or fails) as a system. That's where the answer to the question gets a bit complicated.
That said, there maybe "paper napkin" calculations that are out there that may be useful. I just haven't run across any.
Greg