If they're the same brand/model, set them to go off at different times.
If they're different brands/models, odds are, as others have already stated, that they'll likely go off at different times, anyway.
Regarding the "blow it out or blow it up" approach, I disagree completely. All it really does is put excessive load on your recovery system.
Instead, learn to design and pack your recovery system such that it's reliable, instead of the "shove and pray" approach that's very common.
Ground testing, research and planning will alleviate the need for excessive charges.
As an example, using an ejection charge to shove a 10 pound parachute out of a tube is asking for trouble. Using an ejection charge to separate the rocket and put a small pilot chute in the airstream, which then extracts that same (bagged) 10lb parachute is a much more reliable approach.
-Kevin